I Became A Bride

07 Nov 2018 Leave a comment

by CEOTherapist22 in #bloglikecrazy, #FinishStrong, A Daughter's Heart, Choosen, Daddy and I, Daddy Daughter Faith, Daddy's Daughter, GOD Trust, Soul Detox, Soul Devotion, Soul Series, Wife, Wife in Training Tags: , , , , ,

Hey readers!!!

I hope you are praying for me through this #bloglikecrazy challenge. I have missed two days so far and I am already feeling like I have nothing to write about. But, I must press on and really trying to finish strong!!!
So, today while on the way to work I got a message from my cousin. Now, let me give you some background information about my cousin and why the message she sent to me was life-changing. See earlier this year she got a divorce after being married over 5 years with two beautiful girls. She had never driven before, was a full-time mom, with a part-time in-home daycare. She was super depended on her husband, and when he left her and the kids for the life he wanted, she was overwhelmed and devastated. However, she made a decision to get her license to stay where she was and make the best of things by trusting Daddy. Well, this month she got engaged to a man that worships the ground she walks on, loves her and her girls, but most importantly loves GOD. He pursued her by seeking Daddy and when he asked for her hand it was though he was an answered prayer. I sent her a message congratulating her and telling her how excited I was for her. I ended my message with “You give me hope.” Why? Because, I am divorced, no kids, and have been waiting. (sidebar: you will probably see this blog again on my DFH365 blog during #bloglikecrazy but from a different perspective. If you not following DHF365 please go to dearfuturehusband365.wordpress.com to follow) Now back to our regular scheduled program…  So, she messaged me back and said this: “Thanks girl, remember what one man throws away, becomes another man’s treasure. Any man that see the treasure in you and is willing to pursue you by seeking Daddy will be one lucky man”. I started to cry because I never see things like that. But what really got me was the revelation and my response to her message. I said: “Thank you I really needed to hear that. I am accepting the fact that even if I don’t become a bride to a man, I am a bride of Christ.” OOOOOOOOO Ok!!!! That statement blew me away!!! To even hear myself say it out loud kind of scared me a little. Because I have always desired to get married again, but the real truth is even if I don’t I am still a bride of Christ.
As I continue to meditate on my statement, Daddy spoke these words to me, “Before you were even formed and born I called you my Bride. I proposed to you a long time ago and was excited when you told me “I do”! “You are and will always be the bride I pursue until we meet in the sky. My will for you is simple. That you love me. Pursue me.  Trust me, hear me, and be open with me. I am a gentleman and will never force my way into your heart. I want to be all you need when you need it. I want to be the perfect love song for you.”
Ya’ll, those words ring in my hear as I write this. I realize that even if I never become a wife to a man, I am still a bride to Daddy. Not only am I His daughter I am His bride. I get to carry His last name and reap the benefits. I know you are wondering…What’s the moral to the blog?
The moral of this blog is simple: Don’t allow what you haven’t become detour you from what Daddy has called you to. See I know He called me to be a wife and that in my mind it meant to a man. But what if He called me to be a wife to him instead. We must be satisfied with what we have and where we are. We can’t rush the process because we feel like time is not on our side or we will miss moments. Daddy is the author and finisher of our lives and the creator of time. Even if we miss it the first time, He is capable of recreating the moment for us to get it again.
Prayer:  Daddy, thank you for reminding us that we are a bride to you. That we are your choose vessels and that in you we can find peace and comfort. That we can say I do to you over and over and your love for us will never change. We thank you for a wedding ring we will never have to take off. In JESUS Name. AMEN
P.S. Days 6 & 7 #bloglikecrazy2018

Teammate

07 Jul 2017 Leave a comment

by CEOTherapist22 in Dear Future Husband Series, Relationship, Wife, Wife in Training, Wise Words

It is amazing that the one thing we don’t think about when being single is how can we work together with the person that GOD has for us. I mean when I first got married I was so in tune with being in a position of being “perfect wife,” that I was not able to get to the place of seeing myself as my ex-husband’s teammate….a.k.a. Helpmate. So what is a teammate in a marriage…. Well it’s the same thing that it is on a team, a person that you talk with about a plan of action on how to win the game. Each of you have a part to play and without you all playing that part, that means that the team will not be successful. There is one difference in a teammate of marriage, you must be in a position where you are more than just the person that cheers them on to complete the task, sometimes you must be the one to push them into the task. As a teammate you must remember that your team member represents you and together you represent “us”. “US.” Not just the us on the field, but the us even off the field. Genesis 2:18 states “The LORD GOD said, It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” This scripture was the start and the foundation of the GOD concept of marriage and being teammate and this is the scripture I want to breakdown. So in this scripture we see three positions that a wife must be in to fulfill the position of helpmate:

 

1.We must realized that we were called to fulfill a GOD assignment, so can we never operate in our strength while in the position.

 

2. We were created to complete a companionship that came as a result of loneliness… Simply put because there was a need that needed to be resolve, called incompleteness…GOD created in us the wife, things that would cause a pressing to remove loneliness and create companionship … to shift the heart of man from selfish to selflessness.

 

3. We were tailored made for the person that GOD connects us with. Can I break that down some more. If he is truly who GOD created us for then we will never have to force anything. Ok let me simplify that some more. When the man finds a wife the favor will not come only when he finds her, but in the aftermath of the wedding. That means that wife you will never have to defend who you were called to be in his life, your assignment and the anointing on your life will always speak for you. ALWAYS! So you will never have to be moved by the naysayers, be pursued by those that doubt your love and marriage, or be motivated to prove that your marriage is GOD ordained. IT WILL SPEAK FOR ITSELF… WHY? Because you are tailored made teammates.

 

 

So be aware of what a teammate is in a marriage and ask yourself this one question… Am I ready to be the perfect puzzle piece for him or her, or have I compromise myself to the point that my piece needs to be reshaped again? Whatever your answer hold strong to the fact that you will never have to force your position as a teammate.

 

 

#DearFutureHusband I am so grateful for the confidence that you have in us, that you realize that I was perfectly design to fit into your puzzle, and you were perfectly design, not to complete me, but push me to my destiny of wife, helpmate, and teammate. Thank you for never allowing others to cause us to compromise.

 

#DearFutureHusband 1Year Later

30 Dec 2016 1 Comment

by CEOTherapist22 in Dear Future Husband Series, Future Speaking, Healthy Marriage, Marriage, Relationship, Relentless Faith, Singleness, Wife, Wife in Training, Wise Words Tags: , , , , ,

I can’t believe that my journey of #DearFutureHusband started a year ago. I never knew that my little post and comment to my future husband would impact not only women but men to desire their own future mate. As I enter into 2017 it is important to me to continue the ministry of my #DearFutureHusband by creating #DearFutureHusband365. I hope as my readers you will take part in this great conversation whether married or single. I think speaking to your future or current spouse is a great way to create moments of appreciation, growth, and create intimate moments that will last a lifetime. The Bible always reminds us of how powerful our words are and the wisdom we should use when it comes to using our tongue. Here are a couple of scriptures that got me all the way together when it come to my tongue. 

Proverbs 12: 18 The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.


Proverbs 15: 4 The soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit.


Proverbs 16:1 To humans belong the plans of the heart, but from the Lord comes the proper answer of the tongue.


Proverbs18:21 (The well know scripture about the tongue) The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.


It amazes me that after Proverbs 18:21 we find the scripture that summarizes the heart of courtship between a man and woman. A man that finds a wife finds (obtains) favor with GOD. This can only happen when we know the power of our tongue. Daddy is so Amazing in his strategy. He gives us the formula for us to get our in positions to be found as a wife and for the husband to gain GODly favor. I LOVE IT!!  


Prayer: Daddy we come seeking you for wisdom on how to use our words and speaking the future of our lives into existence. Daddy as we continue to wait for our future spouses, please us be patient in your timing. Help us to understand that your timing is perfect and it comes with a greater reward, one that our mind couldn’t even think of. One that outweighs our heart desires. One that creates a moment that causes us to stretch out on faith and trust you more.  

In Jesus Name 

AMEN!

He Has The Best Song

25 Jul 2016 Leave a comment

by CEOTherapist22 in Dear Future Husband Series, Healthy Marriage, Marriage, Marriage Goals, Relationship, Relentless Faith, Wife, Wife in Training Tags: , , , , ,

I love the Song of Solomon it is the most romantic book I have read in my life. To know the heart of a husband from courtship to engagement to the result of marriage. How he describes his bride and how she describes him. How they describe their love for one another and how she is so desperate to be in his presence. Not only is this book about a man and woman but can truly relate to how desperate we should be to be in the presence of GOD.

Song of Soloman 1:15-16

HE

15 Behold, you are beautiful, my love;
    behold, you are beautiful;
    your eyes are doves.

She

16 Behold, you are beautiful, my beloved, truly delightful.

‪#‎DearFutureHusband‬ your personal love songs always make me smile. Thank you for taking the time to write the lyrics of your heart.


‪#‎DearFutureHusband‬ thank you for your support as I get my degrees. I know you are tired of graduations but I got to get this last 1.


‪#‎DearFutureHusband‬ I’m always willing to say yes all you have to do is ask.‪#‎helpmatelanguage‬

‪#‎DearFutureHusband‬ if you need to remember what love is always look at our marriage. God love us enough to put us together. ‪#‎tailormade‬

‪#‎DearFutureHusband‬ I love our secret codes, jokes, and language it makes it feel like we have our own world. ‪#‎theyarenotallowed‬

‪#‎DearFutureHusband‬ thank you for always taking time to pursue me like we just met yesterday. It feels good to be your new gf/wife everyday.


‪#‎DearFutureHusband‬ after 20 plus years of marriage I want to always have newlywed moments.. ‪#‎yourememberthattime‬

‪#‎DearFutureHusband‬ I hope every morning you see my text messages you know how grateful I am for you being in my life and the honor I feel in carrying your last name.

You Will Be Called

25 Jul 2016 Leave a comment

by CEOTherapist22 in Dear Future Husband Series, Healthy Marriage, Marriage, Marriage Goals, The Weight of Waiting, Wife, Wife in Training Tags: , , , , , , ,

I love the verse in the Bible that talks about the heart of marriage through two lives becoming one. I realize though it looks good at the altar on your wedding day it can be difficult if you do not realize how the two really can become one. Always remember when praying for your future spouse pray for the wisdom to know that two will become one. Mark 10:6-96 But from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female.’ 7 ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife,[a] 8 and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh. 9 What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”

 

‪#‎DearFutureHusband‬ there will never be a time where your presence doesn’t make me feel safe and secure. Why you ask? Because you carry the heart of my father. ‪#‎youarejustrrightforme‬

‪#‎DearFutureHusband‬ because you sowed a seed of sacrifice everything you create your hands to do will produce fruit. ‪#‎winningcouple‬

‪#‎DearFutureHusband‬ when I’m feeling like the D. U. F. F. With my friends you always remind me that I’m beautiful. ‪#‎thanksforvaluelessons‬

‪#‎DearFutureHusband‬ My world may seem chaotic and full of other people’s opinions but no matter what They say you always speak life.


‪#‎DearFutureHusband‬ please don’t complain how I pack when I need options to make sure I look fine for you. ‪#‎carrythesebagssir‬

Wife Mindset

25 Jul 2016 Leave a comment

by CEOTherapist22 in Dear Future Husband Series, Healthy Marriage, Marriage, Marriage Goals, Wife, Wife in Training Tags: , , , , ,

So for the past couple of days I have been doing #DearFutureHusband tweets and post on Facebook. They were motivated when I was riding in the car praying for my future husband and I remember asking GOD is my future husband praying for me like I am for him. So I decided to come on here and share my post and tweets to motive someone that is seeking to be found by their husband and looking for their wife. I  know this world is full of chaos, but the Bible says that Jesus came that we may have life and life  more abundantly. (John10:10)

Dear Future Husband: I want to pray for you until I feel you praying for me.‪#‎relationshipgoal‬

The Position

14 Jan 2016 Leave a comment

by CEOTherapist22 in Dear Future Husband Series, Faith Series, Legacy of A Daughter, Marriage, Open Heart, Wife, Wife in Training Tags: , ,

Dear Future Husband:

There are times in my life where even when I need to be vulnerable I still end up being guarded. Not because I don’t trust you with me, but because I don’t want to be a burden to you when you already have the world, all your responsibilities, and our family on your shoulders. But today I realize something it’s not my place to judge what you can and can’t handle, nor is it my place to tell you what you need and don’t need on your plate. So I apologize for taking GOD’s authority and being out of line when it comes to your strength. You can handle any and ever thing when it comes to me, if you didn’t GOD would have not place us together. He knew that there would be days that your wife would be so overwhelm with emotions. That though she is about to break on the inside she smiles on the outside and you would have the power and gift to not only identify that she was in a place that she needed to talk but you will have the ability to love her to a place of healing. You would truly take off the duties of all other responsibilities just to cater to the needs of being a covering for your wife.  Thank you. I forget that I have a partner that can handle all of me and all my emotional moments, that he will know what to say and how to say it before I could voice anything about it. Thank you for being patient with me. I forget that I am your rib and a piece of you. That you take time to talk to Daddy about me…how to deal with me… how to reveal the secrets of my heart even when I feel like my heart desires are to great and  big for me to even handle.  But today as I sat and talk with about how I was feeling a peace came over me. It was no ordinary peace. It was a peace of GOD’s love and assurance and as you talk I heard the Holy Spirit say it’s ok he can handle your heart that’s who your Daddy put you with. I also heard him say that you are his missing piece he will never devalue who you are because it would be like him devaluing himself, so let go… cry if you need to, scream if you want to, but most importantly get it out so that when you leave his presence you will know the victory of your father and you will understand that your battle is already won. So today I say thank you!!! Thank for never changing your approach with me, for being patient with me, for allowing me to glow in the end, for allowing your love to cover me, for being selfless, for being you. Thank you for always encouraging me, and realizing that my attitude has nothing to do with you or your action, but the constant healing from past hurt. Thank you for being my covering, for allowing me to be totally naked in front of you, never seeing my vulnerability as weakness but as strength. 

With A grateful heart,

A covered wife

He Loves Me

29 Dec 2015 2 Comments

by CEOTherapist22 in A cry, Daily Living, Dear Future Husband Series, Encouragement, Legacy of A Daughter, Marriage, Relationship, Wife, Wife in Training Tags: ,

Dear Future Husband:

If my heart could express what I was feeling today I think you would understand the unexplained emotions that I demonstrated on this morning. First let me apologize for taking my sealed and covered heart out on you. I forget that there is another part of me that I can talk to, be free with, and cry on. I forget that I am no longer this single woman seeking to be found by the one that GOD tailored made me for. I forget that you are my rock, you know things even before I express them, because you and the father have conversations about me daily. I forget that you know how I function. You know what is really wrong with me though I try to keep my mask in tack, you quickly slip it off and see my nakedness. I forget that you love me.. not the me that I reveal to you, but the me that I keep hidden. I forget that you know me! You know the heart of who I am.. You know that at night I cry because I can’t meet the world’s demands. That I want to save nations but struggle to save me. That there are times that I wish to be free but have created a bubble so big to protect me that I forgot to let you in or better yet pop it.. Future I forgot!!! I truly did!!! But I am so glad that in my outburst you took me tears and all.. and you held me. And as you held me, you spoke to the father about me. You spoke life to me, you spoke love into me, you declared and decreed things that I couldn’t see. As I cried in your arms not knowing what to do today. You took on the light of the father, and shined on me. You became my strength and though your day was busy with appointments and meetings, You cancelled them all just to be with me. To comfort me.. Take care of me. You became my superhero though I told you I didn’t need to be rescued. You became my all when I felt like I had nothing. You became everything I needed you to be and completed the assignment of the father to me. For this my heart screams thank you.. but my tears say I appreciate you. I never thought you could truly be my all in all in one breath, but you took on the assignment with a heart of GOD courage and said father give me strength, and he did that a more. Thank you for never allowing me to forget that you and I are one, and the purpose of our union is not about a person but a purpose.

With a heart of relief,

Your Grateful Wife

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