This blog entry is going to be short and sweet and to the point. I really wanted to share with you my thoughts as we prepare for the end of Holy Week with Easter 2022 on Sunday.
I’m sure some of you are like me in asking why is today called Good Friday? When we know that on this day thousands of years ago Jesus had been captured, beaten, and going from judgment hall to judgment hall while being mocked along the way. As I was praying I got the revelation, today is Good Friday because we see the fruit of Jesus manifesting like never before. We see the actions of his teachings being done by him. He became the ultimate example today. We see scriptures come alive and principles he taught being put into action by the teacher. His journey to the cross and our access to eternal life started today. That’s why it’s Good Friday. What should today teach us? 1) The process of our assignment and yes is not about us. 2) Don’t get discouraged when it seems like everyone is against you on your way to your next. 3) Live out your Yes and enjoy the fruits that manifest from it. 4) If they keep looking for an excuse to justify their actions towards you remember that victory and freedom are yours. 5) Your silence speaks greater volumes than any action you could ever make. 6) GOD will fight your battles even when you can’t feel Him.
May this short yet impactful message encourage you to see the actions of Christ on his way to the cross as a reminder of how great, good, and wonderful our Savior and Daddy are.
Prayer: Daddy thank you for allowing your son to be the ultimate sacrifice for our eternal life. We take notice and create moments to encounter your love for us during this time. We understand that Holy week is a designated time for us to observe, remember, and rejoice over the process of your son’s yes. Yes to your will, word, and way, and his assignment of dying so I can have direct access to you. We don’t take this week or his assignment for granted. We rejoice at the fact that because he said yes, we in return have the power and authority to speak things that are not as though they are. We love you and we thank you for loving us first. In Jesus’ Name Amen!
It is amazing that the one thing we don’t think about when being single is how can we work together with the person that GOD has for us. I mean when I first got married I was so in tune with being in a position of being “perfect wife,” that I was not able to get to the place of seeing myself as my ex-husband’s teammate….a.k.a. Helpmate. So what is a teammate in a marriage…. Well it’s the same thing that it is on a team, a person that you talk with about a plan of action on how to win the game. Each of you have a part to play and without you all playing that part, that means that the team will not be successful. There is one difference in a teammate of marriage, you must be in a position where you are more than just the person that cheers them on to complete the task, sometimes you must be the one to push them into the task. As a teammate you must remember that your team member represents you and together you represent “us”. “US.” Not just the us on the field, but the us even off the field. Genesis 2:18 states “The LORD GOD said, It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” This scripture was the start and the foundation of the GOD concept of marriage and being teammate and this is the scripture I want to breakdown. So in this scripture we see three positions that a wife must be in to fulfill the position of helpmate:
1.We must realized that we were called to fulfill a GOD assignment, so can we never operate in our strength while in the position.
2. We were created to complete a companionship that came as a result of loneliness… Simply put because there was a need that needed to be resolve, called incompleteness…GOD created in us the wife, things that would cause a pressing to remove loneliness and create companionship … to shift the heart of man from selfish to selflessness.
3. We were tailored made for the person that GOD connects us with. Can I break that down some more. If he is truly who GOD created us for then we will never have to force anything. Ok let me simplify that some more. When the man finds a wife the favor will not come only when he finds her, but in the aftermath of the wedding. That means that wife you will never have to defend who you were called to be in his life, your assignment and the anointing on your life will always speak for you. ALWAYS! So you will never have to be moved by the naysayers, be pursued by those that doubt your love and marriage, or be motivated to prove that your marriage is GOD ordained. IT WILL SPEAK FOR ITSELF… WHY? Because you are tailored made teammates.
So be aware of what a teammate is in a marriage and ask yourself this one question… Am I ready to be the perfect puzzle piece for him or her, or have I compromise myself to the point that my piece needs to be reshaped again? Whatever your answer hold strong to the fact that you will never have to force your position as a teammate.
#DearFutureHusband I am so grateful for the confidence that you have in us, that you realize that I was perfectly design to fit into your puzzle, and you were perfectly design, not to complete me, but push me to my destiny of wife, helpmate, and teammate. Thank you for never allowing others to cause us to compromise.
I can’t believe that my journey of #DearFutureHusband started a year ago. I never knew that my little post and comment to my future husband would impact not only women but men to desire their own future mate. As I enter into 2017 it is important to me to continue the ministry of my #DearFutureHusband by creating #DearFutureHusband365. I hope as my readers you will take part in this great conversation whether married or single. I think speaking to your future or current spouse is a great way to create moments of appreciation, growth, and create intimate moments that will last a lifetime. The Bible always reminds us of how powerful our words are and the wisdom we should use when it comes to using our tongue. Here are a couple of scriptures that got me all the way together when it come to my tongue.
Proverbs 12: 18 The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.
Proverbs 15: 4 The soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit.
Proverbs 16:1 To humans belong the plans of the heart, but from the Lord comes the proper answer of the tongue.
Proverbs18:21 (The well know scripture about the tongue) The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.
It amazes me that after Proverbs 18:21 we find the scripture that summarizes the heart of courtship between a man and woman. A man that finds a wife finds (obtains) favor with GOD. This can only happen when we know the power of our tongue. Daddy is so Amazing in his strategy. He gives us the formula for us to get our in positions to be found as a wife and for the husband to gain GODly favor. I LOVE IT!!
Prayer: Daddy we come seeking you for wisdom on how to use our words and speaking the future of our lives into existence. Daddy as we continue to wait for our future spouses, please us be patient in your timing. Help us to understand that your timing is perfect and it comes with a greater reward, one that our mind couldn’t even think of. One that outweighs our heart desires. One that creates a moment that causes us to stretch out on faith and trust you more.
I love the Song of Solomon it is the most romantic book I have read in my life. To know the heart of a husband from courtship to engagement to the result of marriage. How he describes his bride and how she describes him. How they describe their love for one another and how she is so desperate to be in his presence. Not only is this book about a man and woman but can truly relate to how desperate we should be to be in the presence of GOD.
Song of Soloman 1:15-16
HE
15 Behold, you are beautiful, my love; behold, you are beautiful; your eyes are doves.
She
16 Behold, you are beautiful, my beloved, truly delightful.
#DearFutureHusband your personal love songs always make me smile. Thank you for taking the time to write the lyrics of your heart.
#DearFutureHusband thank you for your support as I get my degrees. I know you are tired of graduations but I got to get this last 1.
#DearFutureHusband I hope every morning you see my text messages you know how grateful I am for you being in my life and the honor I feel in carrying your last name.
Today Daddy is a day I truly wish that I had a mate. Today the sun you created is shinning bright, the temperature is not too hot and the pollen is not at full blast that I can’t go outside and enjoy the day. But here I sit daydream of a person that doesn’t exist. To be in a position where when he gets off from work we meet up at one of the parks and walk around enjoy great conversation with each other, discussing our future together or even as individuals, and just taking in your great creation. Yet on this day I am inside talking to you about my thoughts. Daughter that sounds great and I hope you know that a day like today with your expectations is not that far away, but why can’t we have a day like that? Why can’t you take the time out and have a day with your Daddy. I want to tell you about the future plans I have for you. I want to enjoy a conversation of your heart, listening to what you desire, and I give you the instructions on how to get there. Daughter I know on a day like today you seek to have the companionship that I created you to have, but until that day comes, come have a day with me. I may not be there in a natural flesh body but my presence will always place you in a position where you will never feel alone. I can hold your hand and enjoy my creations with you. I really just want a day where we can enjoy our relationship. I know that your heart desires something more and daughter please hold fast to that desire. It is the desire of my plan, but until I get through preparing the moment come walk with me in the park. Come enjoy this day with me. Daddy that sounds great, but I can’t see your facial expressions as I discuss the craziness of my life, or hear you laugh at the jokes I try to tell, or even see how you look at me as I look at you. Daughter trust me I understand what you are saying and I have to say is give me the moment to give you the moment you so desire. Know that a day with me can just impacting as one with your mate. I can give you revelation about who I am through my Holy Spirit. I can heal you in just one conversation. I can change your life, create your world, and give you favor, and love on you all at the same time. Daddy I think I like that. I never thought that you could come and be a mate to me in that way. Thank you Daddy for clarity on taking our relationship tp a new level. Daughter you are welcome!!!
If my heart could express what I was feeling today I think you would understand the unexplained emotions that I demonstrated on this morning. First let me apologize for taking my sealed and covered heart out on you. I forget that there is another part of me that I can talk to, be free with, and cry on. I forget that I am no longer this single woman seeking to be found by the one that GOD tailored made me for. I forget that you are my rock, you know things even before I express them, because you and the father have conversations about me daily. I forget that you know how I function. You know what is really wrong with me though I try to keep my mask in tack, you quickly slip it off and see my nakedness. I forget that you love me.. not the me that I reveal to you, but the me that I keep hidden. I forget that you know me! You know the heart of who I am.. You know that at night I cry because I can’t meet the world’s demands. That I want to save nations but struggle to save me. That there are times that I wish to be free but have created a bubble so big to protect me that I forgot to let you in or better yet pop it.. Future I forgot!!! I truly did!!! But I am so glad that in my outburst you took me tears and all.. and you held me. And as you held me, you spoke to the father about me. You spoke life to me, you spoke love into me, you declared and decreed things that I couldn’t see. As I cried in your arms not knowing what to do today. You took on the light of the father, and shined on me. You became my strength and though your day was busy with appointments and meetings, You cancelled them all just to be with me. To comfort me.. Take care of me. You became my superhero though I told you I didn’t need to be rescued. You became my all when I felt like I had nothing. You became everything I needed you to be and completed the assignment of the father to me. For this my heart screams thank you.. but my tears say I appreciate you. I never thought you could truly be my all in all in one breath, but you took on the assignment with a heart of GOD courage and said father give me strength, and he did that a more. Thank you for never allowing me to forget that you and I are one, and the purpose of our union is not about a person but a purpose.
There are no words in the world that can express my thank you. Thank you for the many times you filled up my car because I forgot to put gas in it on the was home. Thank you for making sure that dinner was ready after a long night at the office, even though you had a long day. Thank you for holding me when my friend came to visit me those cramps can be a pain….LOL! Thank you for holding my hand when I gave birth to our children and the midnight runs you made when I was craving crazy things. Thank you for making me laugh when all I wanted to do is cry, because my efforts to save the world today failed. Thank you for speaking life when things seem dead and making sure I remember the promises of GOD. Thank you for being a great father to our children, providing stability, love, laughter, and memories to our home. But most importantly thank you for praying over me and watching over me when I am sleep. There are times that I wake up and it seems that your eyes are close, but then in a quite still voice I hear you praying for me. Asking the father to guide and cover me. I hear you thanking him for our marriage, family, and legacy. I hear you asking him to guide you in new way to love me and fall in love with me over and over again. It’s during these moments that my heart becomes full and I realize how great of a covering you are to me. I try not to cry… But tears start to form in my eyes and I too begin to speak to Daddy about us. I start crying out for your heart, asking Daddy to guide you to the next level in him in peace, while restoring your joy. I ask Daddy to heal all the broken pieces that you never speak of. That he pours out vision and goals beyond your hearts desire and that he guide you to love me and how I should love you in all areas of our marriage. Future your covering means more to me next to GOD himself. Without you I feel so incomplete, but with you I am covered. You are the heart of GOD for me and to me in flesh. For than I am grateful.
You know the saying behind every great man is a great woman. I truly do not believe that. I believe beside every great man is a woman who has prayed from daily, took on his frustration when it became too much for him to burden. A woman who took her place while he was weak and needed to experience the healing of GOD. A woman that cried out to Daddy on his behalf when his words where lost. A woman who spoke life to him when he felt dead and valueless because the world, society, and even the things and people important to him told him he lost. A woman who saw him for what he was not for what he felt like. A woman willing to be whatever she needed to be in order for him to rise to greatness. So Dear Husband of mine, beside you is me. You other half, your completeness in Daddy, your soul mate, your heartbeat…. And though you were complete without me, you are whole with me.
About a couple weeks ago my little sister posted a note on her Facebook page to her future husband. It has been three years since I even was able to address a note to a husband and after three years I realizes it’s time to talk to him again. No I am not married, but it’s time to prepare my conversation with him again. As I was reading her note I heard the Holy Spirit say… write yours…. Where is yours? I realize that though I hope for a husband soon in my future, my conversations with him would be limited since I wouldn’t know where to start. So for the next week or so I will be writing my love notes to my future husband, wherever he may be. I realize that 2016 is a year of GOD expectation and can I tell you I am expecting Daddy to move since in 2015 I have really had to deal with total loses. I lose both my grandmothers, housing, and my car was totaled. When I tell you this has been a Daddy year it truly has been, because without his peace I would not know that my future exist… So take this journey with me as I prepare for my future husband. I spoke until the end of 2015 but I feel that this journey will turn into a lifestyle. So as we move into the next level of Daddy Daughter Conversations become aware that Daddy is preparing you for the assignment of your future. Faith is speaking into existence, the evidence that you hope to manifest in your favor.
Yesterday I had the honor of sitting and talking with my friend Ms. Chloe M. Gooden author and created of the Know Your Worth Rubie Movement and ministry. In our conversation we talk about any and everything but the thing we talk about the most was courtship. If you are single, married, engaged, or looking this blog is for you. I am not going to get deep at all but I wanted to share my heart, because as a woman that has went through all the cycle of a relationship (singleness, marriage, divorce, singleness again) I realized that the next one I get involved in I want the honor and privilege for it be a courtship. You will know what courtship is when you read the book Song of Solomon. How the bride and groom had their arguments, ups and downs, but through it all they had the support, accountability, and love of family and friends to keep them straight until their wedding night. They had friends that protected their investment in each other, covering them in prayer through the process of courtship, loving them, encouraging them, and making sure they remain in their purpose and will of GOD. This is courtship to me. The ability to be with one person that purse the father to get to me. The one who says I want to surround myself with people who see my heart of wanting a mate and giving me wisdom on how to pursue, keep, and maintain a healthy, GODly relationship with my mate. I love Proverbs 18:22 ” A man that finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains favor from GOD.” That to me is the ultimate instruction for a man in the way that he should pursue his wife until he dies. Keep finding her I don’t care if you been married 50 years there is something about her that has developed due to her marriage to you. If you are dating you truly have not arrived yet. There are things about her that you haven’t tapped into that cause her to tick, grow, and even become motivated. If you are engaged that doesn’t mean that your journey to finding her is over, it simple means that the journey has begun. Don’t settle in what you know keep pursing her as though you met for the very first time again. Today I urge you to look at how your enter, pursue, obtain, maintain, and even purpose relationships. Are you in a place were you dating a person or persons so that you can figure out what you want? Or are you in a place where you are dating, married, or engaged to one person and content where you all are in your relationship with each other that you don’t care to get to know each other any more? Wherever you are can I tell you one thing… Courtship is the key to your happiness in GOD when it comes to your relationship on the level of loving with and on purpose. That he wants you to be active in courtship the art of his love in your relationship with detail instructions from his word.
Prayer: Daddy we thank you that even though the world has it’s way in how we should pursue relationships and marriage, you have giving us great instructions in your word on what we your daughters and sons should do. Thank you Daddy that we shall be the favor that we should be and the helpmates that we are called to be to our husbands, and they should be the covering that they are called to be along with the priest you purpose them to be. Daddy I lift up every married couple. I plead the blood of Jesus over their marriage, remind them of your word that love is patience, love is kind, it never boost; that what you have joined together no man can tear apart and that means them as well. Daddy remind them that you are a great counselor in all situations and no matter what the issue you can handle it. Daddy remind the husband to find his wife in you for she is the key to his favor in you and remind the wives that their value can’t be determine by prize possessions only the blessings that her husband and you speak over her along with her children. Daddy I pray for those engaged to be married. I thank you that they have accepted the call to the process of marriage, cultivate their hearts to receive the work that comes with the title of husband and wife. Help them to deal with arguments in the manner of peace and wisdom, not flesh, feelings, and unwise emotions. Help them to pray for each other daily collectively and individually. Help them to maintain their relationship with you and not getting caught in the details of the a day. Daddy most importantly keep them in a position were they love each other unconditionally. Daddy I lift up the singles.. OOOOOOOO DADDY being single in a world where sex, sin, and fornication is the normal and expected in our single state is hard. Daddy keep our minds focused on you and your word. Help us to stand on the promise that we are called to your purpose and you have someone that is perfectly made for us. Help us remain patient in our wait and still in our season, waiting on your instructions. In JESUS name! AMEN
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