07 Jul 2017
by CEOTherapist22
in Dear Future Husband Series, Relationship, Wife, Wife in Training, Wise Words
It is amazing that the one thing we don’t think about when being single is how can we work together with the person that GOD has for us. I mean when I first got married I was so in tune with being in a position of being “perfect wife,” that I was not able to get to the place of seeing myself as my ex-husband’s teammate….a.k.a. Helpmate. So what is a teammate in a marriage…. Well it’s the same thing that it is on a team, a person that you talk with about a plan of action on how to win the game. Each of you have a part to play and without you all playing that part, that means that the team will not be successful. There is one difference in a teammate of marriage, you must be in a position where you are more than just the person that cheers them on to complete the task, sometimes you must be the one to push them into the task. As a teammate you must remember that your team member represents you and together you represent “us”. “US.” Not just the us on the field, but the us even off the field. Genesis 2:18 states “The LORD GOD said, It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” This scripture was the start and the foundation of the GOD concept of marriage and being teammate and this is the scripture I want to breakdown. So in this scripture we see three positions that a wife must be in to fulfill the position of helpmate:
1.We must realized that we were called to fulfill a GOD assignment, so can we never operate in our strength while in the position.
2. We were created to complete a companionship that came as a result of loneliness… Simply put because there was a need that needed to be resolve, called incompleteness…GOD created in us the wife, things that would cause a pressing to remove loneliness and create companionship … to shift the heart of man from selfish to selflessness.
3. We were tailored made for the person that GOD connects us with. Can I break that down some more. If he is truly who GOD created us for then we will never have to force anything. Ok let me simplify that some more. When the man finds a wife the favor will not come only when he finds her, but in the aftermath of the wedding. That means that wife you will never have to defend who you were called to be in his life, your assignment and the anointing on your life will always speak for you. ALWAYS! So you will never have to be moved by the naysayers, be pursued by those that doubt your love and marriage, or be motivated to prove that your marriage is GOD ordained. IT WILL SPEAK FOR ITSELF… WHY? Because you are tailored made teammates.
So be aware of what a teammate is in a marriage and ask yourself this one question… Am I ready to be the perfect puzzle piece for him or her, or have I compromise myself to the point that my piece needs to be reshaped again? Whatever your answer hold strong to the fact that you will never have to force your position as a teammate.
#DearFutureHusband I am so grateful for the confidence that you have in us, that you realize that I was perfectly design to fit into your puzzle, and you were perfectly design, not to complete me, but push me to my destiny of wife, helpmate, and teammate. Thank you for never allowing others to cause us to compromise.
30 Dec 2016
by CEOTherapist22
in Dear Future Husband Series, Future Speaking, Healthy Marriage, Marriage, Relationship, Relentless Faith, Singleness, Wife, Wife in Training, Wise Words
Tags: Encouraged, Inspiration, My Heart, Prayer, Vision, Wife
I can’t believe that my journey of #DearFutureHusband started a year ago. I never knew that my little post and comment to my future husband would impact not only women but men to desire their own future mate. As I enter into 2017 it is important to me to continue the ministry of my #DearFutureHusband by creating #DearFutureHusband365. I hope as my readers you will take part in this great conversation whether married or single. I think speaking to your future or current spouse is a great way to create moments of appreciation, growth, and create intimate moments that will last a lifetime. The Bible always reminds us of how powerful our words are and the wisdom we should use when it comes to using our tongue. Here are a couple of scriptures that got me all the way together when it come to my tongue.
Proverbs 12: 18 The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.
Proverbs 15: 4 The soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit.
Proverbs 16:1 To humans belong the plans of the heart, but from the Lord comes the proper answer of the tongue.
Proverbs18:21 (The well know scripture about the tongue) The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.
It amazes me that after Proverbs 18:21 we find the scripture that summarizes the heart of courtship between a man and woman. A man that finds a wife finds (obtains) favor with GOD. This can only happen when we know the power of our tongue. Daddy is so Amazing in his strategy. He gives us the formula for us to get our in positions to be found as a wife and for the husband to gain GODly favor. I LOVE IT!!
Prayer: Daddy we come seeking you for wisdom on how to use our words and speaking the future of our lives into existence. Daddy as we continue to wait for our future spouses, please us be patient in your timing. Help us to understand that your timing is perfect and it comes with a greater reward, one that our mind couldn’t even think of. One that outweighs our heart desires. One that creates a moment that causes us to stretch out on faith and trust you more.
In Jesus Name
AMEN!
25 Jul 2016
by CEOTherapist22
in Dear Future Husband Series, Healthy Marriage, Marriage, Marriage Goals, Relationship, Relentless Faith, Wife, Wife in Training
Tags: A Daughter's Heart, Encouraged, Help Mate Language, In Love, Relationship Goals, Wife
I love the Song of Solomon it is the most romantic book I have read in my life. To know the heart of a husband from courtship to engagement to the result of marriage. How he describes his bride and how she describes him. How they describe their love for one another and how she is so desperate to be in his presence. Not only is this book about a man and woman but can truly relate to how desperate we should be to be in the presence of GOD.
Song of Soloman 1:15-16
HE
15 Behold, you are beautiful, my love;
behold, you are beautiful;
your eyes are doves.
She
16 Behold, you are beautiful, my beloved, truly delightful.
#DearFutureHusband your personal love songs always make me smile. Thank you for taking the time to write the lyrics of your heart.
#DearFutureHusband thank you for your support as I get my degrees. I know you are tired of graduations but I got to get this last 1.
#DearFutureHusband I’m always willing to say yes all you have to do is ask.#helpmatelanguage
#DearFutureHusband if you need to remember what love is always look at our marriage. God love us enough to put us together. #tailormade
#DearFutureHusband I love our secret codes, jokes, and language it makes it feel like we have our own world. #theyarenotallowed
#DearFutureHusband thank you for always taking time to pursue me like we just met yesterday. It feels good to be your new gf/wife everyday.
#DearFutureHusband after 20 plus years of marriage I want to always have newlywed moments.. #yourememberthattime
#DearFutureHusband I hope every morning you see my text messages you know how grateful I am for you being in my life and the honor I feel in carrying your last name.
25 Jul 2016
by CEOTherapist22
in Dear Future Husband Series, Healthy Marriage, Marriage, Marriage Goals, The Weight of Waiting, Wife, Wife in Training
Tags: A Daughter's Heart, A Daughter's Value, Encouraged, Healthy Marriage, In Love, Relationship Goals, Wife, Wife Wisdom
I love the verse in the Bible that talks about the heart of marriage through two lives becoming one. I realize though it looks good at the altar on your wedding day it can be difficult if you do not realize how the two really can become one. Always remember when praying for your future spouse pray for the wisdom to know that two will become one. Mark 10:6-96 But from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female.’ 7 ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, 8 and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh. 9 What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”
#DearFutureHusband there will never be a time where your presence doesn’t make me feel safe and secure. Why you ask? Because you carry the heart of my father. #youarejustrrightforme
#DearFutureHusband because you sowed a seed of sacrifice everything you create your hands to do will produce fruit. #winningcouple
#DearFutureHusband when I’m feeling like the D. U. F. F. With my friends you always remind me that I’m beautiful. #thanksforvaluelessons
#DearFutureHusband My world may seem chaotic and full of other people’s opinions but no matter what They say you always speak life.
#DearFutureHusband please don’t complain how I pack when I need options to make sure I look fine for you. #carrythesebagssir
25 Jul 2016
by CEOTherapist22
in Dear Future Husband Series, Healthy Marriage, Marriage, Marriage Goals, Wife, Wife in Training
Tags: A Daughter's Heart, Help Mate Language, Relationship Goal, Wife, Wife Faith, Winning Couple
So for the past couple of days I have been doing #DearFutureHusband tweets and post on Facebook. They were motivated when I was riding in the car praying for my future husband and I remember asking GOD is my future husband praying for me like I am for him. So I decided to come on here and share my post and tweets to motive someone that is seeking to be found by their husband and looking for their wife. I know this world is full of chaos, but the Bible says that Jesus came that we may have life and life more abundantly. (John10:10)
Dear Future Husband: I want to pray for you until I feel you praying for me.#relationshipgoal
01 Feb 2016
by CEOTherapist22
in Dear Future Husband Series, Encouragement, Faith Series, Freedom, Healed, Marriage, Open Heart, Wife
Tags: A Daughter's Heart, Daddy and I, Daddy Daughter Conversation, Inspiration for the Soul, Lighten My Load, Transparencey
This post is going to be really different because it will be comprise of several things (Dear Future Husband, Transparency, and Daddy Daughter Conversation) For the last three months I have really been in the position of student and learning. About six months ago I ask GOD to start preparing me and surrounding me with the things that a wife would have to face, because I was the position where I really desire the Man of GOD I was designed for. In that prayer I had the opportunity to experience “Wife Lessons.” Let me tell you Wife lessons are hard. I mean patience and the ability to hear has been the biggest lesson and teacher during each lesson. I am overwhelm with the revelations that Daddy has given me through every teaching moment. But the biggest lesson came when I found myself in battle in my sleep in my room at night. (Here is me being Transparent) I would find myself fight demotic spirits and one looked like someone I knew. I contact someone I trust that had the spiritual wisdom that I needed to help me understand what was going on. In our conversation she told me that I needed to record every encounter, ask Daddy about it, and realize the pattern of when the attacks happen. Before she could tell me more.. I got the revelation of the why, when, and how they happen. She then told me to explore the root of those areas and when I tell you it didn’t take me long to reveal the root. The root came from suppressed insecurity, abandonment, rejection, and giving my body away. Because every demotic attack was a man. I was overwhelm when I realize that what I thought I was over was really a suppressed moment exposed through these attacks. I did any and everything to make sure that I look like I had it all together, even it meant acting like certain things didn’t happen, but the reality is…. What I don’t deal with in the natural got exposed in the spiritual and it gave the enemy the permission to come in and do whatever he wanted to do with me. So with all that being said I had to ask Daddy to help me recall every moment that I felt abandon, rejected, given myself away, and let me not forget unforgiveness too which lead to my insecurity. Last night I had to go into my walk in closet and make it my altar calling out everything that the Holy Spirit brought to my mind. From being divorced to being in the position of feel like the only thing that I had to offer a man was my body. I was put on the surgical table to be cut on. I asked for a clean heart and blood transfusion along with freedom. I had to remember that I have freedom in Daddy and there is no chain too strong that can’t be broke by him. It’s amazing how suppressed things will find themselves exposed no matter how much you try to keep them in. Because I was able to be place on the altar of sacrifices I now have begun to feel the freedom that Daddy promises us. It’s awesome but it’s just a piece of what I can have and I plan on having in all areas of my life. (Dear Future Husband)
Dear Future Husband:
I realize that every time I fuss at you for your short comings I am actually frustrated with my own suppressed emotions. The ones that I feel if I present them to you, you will see me in a light that is unpleasing to you. That you will no longer see your priceless jewel, but see broken pieces of colored glass. But after laying on Daddy’s altar and presenting my body on his surgical table, he cut me open and replace my heart with his and gave me a blood transfusion that cause me to regain joy and my place in him. No longer am I upset at my short comes and no longer am I striving towards perfection but excellence. I apologize for all the times I made you feel less than a man. I apologize for making you feel like you failed me. Know that there is nothing in this world that you can do to fail me unless you stop listening to Daddy. You are my rock, you are the natural representation of GOD’s love towards me. You are his heart in the flesh. Thank you for always being so patient and forgiving. I realize that this nothing new for you, that you were prepared for this very moment because Daddy told you it was coming. But that doesn’t meant that I can’t correct my actions. I thank you for being so great and open with me every step up the way. Today as Daddy has open my heart I expose my all to you. I realize that this should have been done before now, but you knew that I would come to you sooner than later with all of my brokenness healed. Thank you for being my heart beat when I didn’t see how to love you beyond my flaws. Thank you for being the covering that you were destine to be for me. The tears that I cry right now are not of hurt and frustration any more, but gratitude and joy. I am totally grateful that you know the value of us and me. That my price in your heart never devalues but continues to gain value. I love you so much.
With a healed heart,
Your Priceless Jewel
Prayer: Daddy this was the most difficult revelation about me that I have ever had to face in a while. To know that I was in a place of bondage thinking I was free. Daddy thank you for a husband who can pray for my brokenness and not walk away as though there is not hope. Thank you for a man who sees beyond my flaws and see my freedom. Father right now I expose my flaws, heart, and mind to you. Find all the areas of insecurities in my life and cover them in the blood and destroying them with your love. For you said in your word that I fearfully and wonderfully made in you. Daddy expose every areas of doubt that I have suppressed just to fake joy. You said that I should be anxious for nothing. That you have taken on every burden that I may experience your everlasting joy. Jesus you said that you came that I can have life and life more abundantly and I accept the abundance of life today. Daddy take away the areas of rejection that I have kept a secrete for you said in your word that your plans for my life are good and perfect. That you knew me before I was even a thought in my mother’s womb. Daddy make me whole again. You said that you are my healer, that in you I can find rest and refuge. Daddy right now I ask that every broken area and piece of me be whole in you. Thank you that the blood of your son Jesus make me new in you and your grace covers me daily. Daddy thank you for being my father. For loving me in spite of. I thank you that you will never allow anything to harm me. I bind up every attack, assignment, and ambush of the enemy that is in the works, working, and thinking about manifesting in the name of Jesus and with his blood I send them all to the pit of hell. I thank you father that ever witch, war lock, demotic spirit, or imp is bound in the name of Jesus and sent to the pit of hell and every opening, window, door, gateway, foot hold, crack, and cranny that the enemy is trying to come through has been sealed with the blood of JESUS and that the freedom of you has been released. Thank you Daddy for freedom and the healing of self inflicted wounds. Daddy I rest in your freedom, I speak your joy, I represent your glory and I thank you for your peace. In JESUS NAME AMEN
14 Jan 2016
by CEOTherapist22
in Dear Future Husband Series, Faith Series, Legacy of A Daughter, Marriage, Open Heart, Wife, Wife in Training
Tags: A Daughter's Heart, Inspiration for the Soul, Lighten My Load
Dear Future Husband:
There are times in my life where even when I need to be vulnerable I still end up being guarded. Not because I don’t trust you with me, but because I don’t want to be a burden to you when you already have the world, all your responsibilities, and our family on your shoulders. But today I realize something it’s not my place to judge what you can and can’t handle, nor is it my place to tell you what you need and don’t need on your plate. So I apologize for taking GOD’s authority and being out of line when it comes to your strength. You can handle any and ever thing when it comes to me, if you didn’t GOD would have not place us together. He knew that there would be days that your wife would be so overwhelm with emotions. That though she is about to break on the inside she smiles on the outside and you would have the power and gift to not only identify that she was in a place that she needed to talk but you will have the ability to love her to a place of healing. You would truly take off the duties of all other responsibilities just to cater to the needs of being a covering for your wife. Thank you. I forget that I have a partner that can handle all of me and all my emotional moments, that he will know what to say and how to say it before I could voice anything about it. Thank you for being patient with me. I forget that I am your rib and a piece of you. That you take time to talk to Daddy about me…how to deal with me… how to reveal the secrets of my heart even when I feel like my heart desires are to great and big for me to even handle. But today as I sat and talk with about how I was feeling a peace came over me. It was no ordinary peace. It was a peace of GOD’s love and assurance and as you talk I heard the Holy Spirit say it’s ok he can handle your heart that’s who your Daddy put you with. I also heard him say that you are his missing piece he will never devalue who you are because it would be like him devaluing himself, so let go… cry if you need to, scream if you want to, but most importantly get it out so that when you leave his presence you will know the victory of your father and you will understand that your battle is already won. So today I say thank you!!! Thank for never changing your approach with me, for being patient with me, for allowing me to glow in the end, for allowing your love to cover me, for being selfless, for being you. Thank you for always encouraging me, and realizing that my attitude has nothing to do with you or your action, but the constant healing from past hurt. Thank you for being my covering, for allowing me to be totally naked in front of you, never seeing my vulnerability as weakness but as strength.
With A grateful heart,
A covered wife
29 Dec 2015
by CEOTherapist22
in A cry, Daily Living, Dear Future Husband Series, Encouragement, Legacy of A Daughter, Marriage, Relationship, Wife, Wife in Training
Tags: A Daughter's Heart, Superhero
Dear Future Husband:
If my heart could express what I was feeling today I think you would understand the unexplained emotions that I demonstrated on this morning. First let me apologize for taking my sealed and covered heart out on you. I forget that there is another part of me that I can talk to, be free with, and cry on. I forget that I am no longer this single woman seeking to be found by the one that GOD tailored made me for. I forget that you are my rock, you know things even before I express them, because you and the father have conversations about me daily. I forget that you know how I function. You know what is really wrong with me though I try to keep my mask in tack, you quickly slip it off and see my nakedness. I forget that you love me.. not the me that I reveal to you, but the me that I keep hidden. I forget that you know me! You know the heart of who I am.. You know that at night I cry because I can’t meet the world’s demands. That I want to save nations but struggle to save me. That there are times that I wish to be free but have created a bubble so big to protect me that I forgot to let you in or better yet pop it.. Future I forgot!!! I truly did!!! But I am so glad that in my outburst you took me tears and all.. and you held me. And as you held me, you spoke to the father about me. You spoke life to me, you spoke love into me, you declared and decreed things that I couldn’t see. As I cried in your arms not knowing what to do today. You took on the light of the father, and shined on me. You became my strength and though your day was busy with appointments and meetings, You cancelled them all just to be with me. To comfort me.. Take care of me. You became my superhero though I told you I didn’t need to be rescued. You became my all when I felt like I had nothing. You became everything I needed you to be and completed the assignment of the father to me. For this my heart screams thank you.. but my tears say I appreciate you. I never thought you could truly be my all in all in one breath, but you took on the assignment with a heart of GOD courage and said father give me strength, and he did that a more. Thank you for never allowing me to forget that you and I are one, and the purpose of our union is not about a person but a purpose.
With a heart of relief,
Your Grateful Wife
28 Dec 2015
by CEOTherapist22
in Dear Future Husband Series, Encouragement, Faith Series, Speaking Future
Tags: A Daughter's Heart, In Love, Inspiration for the Soul
Dear Future Husband:
As I sit here thinking about you. I hear the Jill Scott song in my head..”Just Running Across My Mind.” The lyrics that stick out to me that describes you are…. ” I love seeing you walk into a room… across the room, out of the room… I just love what you do… Then I added my own lyrics…I love seeing you smile… I love that I motivate you… I love your passion… I love that you want to save the nations, but you are taking care of our family fi…rst. I love that you can be my personal superhero yet vulnerable enough to accept help.I am just in love with all of you.Totally grateful that you are willing to spend the rest of your life being in ministry with me.
Committed to You,
Your Pearl
27 Dec 2015
by CEOTherapist22
in Dear Future Husband Series, Encouragement, Faith Series, My Position, Relationship, Speaking Future
Tags: A Daughter's Heart, Covering, Future, In Love, Inspiration for the Soul, It Can Happen
Dear Future Husband:
There are no words in the world that can express my thank you. Thank you for the many times you filled up my car because I forgot to put gas in it on the was home. Thank you for making sure that dinner was ready after a long night at the office, even though you had a long day. Thank you for holding me when my friend came to visit me those cramps can be a pain….LOL! Thank you for holding my hand when I gave birth to our children and the midnight runs you made when I was craving crazy things. Thank you for making me laugh when all I wanted to do is cry, because my efforts to save the world today failed. Thank you for speaking life when things seem dead and making sure I remember the promises of GOD. Thank you for being a great father to our children, providing stability, love, laughter, and memories to our home. But most importantly thank you for praying over me and watching over me when I am sleep. There are times that I wake up and it seems that your eyes are close, but then in a quite still voice I hear you praying for me. Asking the father to guide and cover me. I hear you thanking him for our marriage, family, and legacy. I hear you asking him to guide you in new way to love me and fall in love with me over and over again. It’s during these moments that my heart becomes full and I realize how great of a covering you are to me. I try not to cry… But tears start to form in my eyes and I too begin to speak to Daddy about us. I start crying out for your heart, asking Daddy to guide you to the next level in him in peace, while restoring your joy. I ask Daddy to heal all the broken pieces that you never speak of. That he pours out vision and goals beyond your hearts desire and that he guide you to love me and how I should love you in all areas of our marriage. Future your covering means more to me next to GOD himself. Without you I feel so incomplete, but with you I am covered. You are the heart of GOD for me and to me in flesh. For than I am grateful.
With A Heart of Yes,
Your Heartbeat
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